The Bride of Christ

There are no words which adequately describe the relationship of Christ to His church. So when we talk about it, we have to use analogy and metaphor. The New Testament uses several metaphors to describe it—he Body of Christ, the Bride of Christ, a royal nation, a chosen priesthood. No metaphor though is more powerful or descriptive than the Bride of Christ.


The New Testament gives two references to the church as the bride. The longest is Ephesians 5:25-33

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery — but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

This passage tells us several things we need to know.

First it tells us how much God loves us. He loves us like a bridegroom loves his bride.

Second it tells us how God thinks of us as one person. We are His bride, not his brides.

Third, it tells us the importance God places on our relationship to Him. No human relationship is deeper or stronger that the one between a husband and wife. Yet Paul says that this sacred relationship is only a picture of a greater relationship in heaven. Our relationship to God is more important than our relationship to our spouses—or for that matter our children and grandchildren.

The other reference is Rev. 21:9

One of the seven angels who had the seven bowls full of the seven last plagues came and said to me, "Come, I will show you the bride, the wife of the Lamb."

The two great traditions of the ancient church were the Western, exemplified by Paul, and the Eastern, exemplified by John. If the same metaphor in John and in Paul, it must be important. The whole church must have used it.

This metaphor came from the prophets of the Old Testament. Isaiah says in Isa 62:3-5

You will be a crown of splendor in the LORD's hand, a royal diadem in the hand of your God. No longer will they call you Deserted, or name your land Desolate. . .for the LORD will take delight in you, and your land will be married. As a young man marries a maiden, so will your sons marry you;as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride , so will your God rejoice over you.

Jeremiah uses a similar image in Jer 2:2

"'I remember the devotion of your youth, how as a bride you loved me

We are the bride of Christ, not yet the wife. That does not happen until heaven. The wedding happens in heaven, while we are on earth, we are just engaged.

The image of the church as fiancé has special meaning to me right now. Two of my daughters are engaged. The house is full of talk about weddings. I think I understand what a bride must go through before she gets to the altar.

There are many parallels between the pre-nuptial state and the state of the church. There is a sense of hope and anticipation, as well as the romance and excitement. God wants us to love Him as passionately and as deeply as an engaged couple loves each other.

In our society, though engagement has a crazy side to it. We are obsessed with the wedding and not the marriage. Engagement has become a time of temporary insanity in which we throw caution to the wind and spend like drunken sailors--thousand dollar dresses, ten thousand dollar receptions, bridal carriages, limousines, orchestras, flowers, and every imaginable indulgence. We spend what we do not have to make every detail perfect. The fuss about weddings is the reason some couples choose to elope.

As the bride of Christ, we do not have to worry about the wedding or the ceremony. Our heavenly Father is paying for all that. We do not even have to plan it. It will be done for us in heaven, with the angels of God as attendants and servers. So what is left for us to do, to be the bride of Christ? What do we do in our engagement period? Several things:

1. We get to know our spouse. Before you get engaged, you think you know your girl friend. You don’t. You just know the face she wants to show you during courtship. But when you get engaged, you really begin to get to know her. Hopefully, you get premarital counseling. It’s amazing the answers that come when we sit down and face some honest questions. Getting to know each other is the main task of this period of life.

The main task of the church on earth is to get to know God. Worship is the first way we do this. Worship is getting your eyes off ourselves and onto Jesus. As we do all things for His glory, He reveals Himself more and more; It takes a lifetime to really know Jesus. In that lifetime, we need to stay close in prayer and worship.

2. We get to know ourselves. In the movie Runaway Bride, a woman gets engaged several times, but never gets married, instead, she keeps running away from the altar. At one point in the movie, someone tells her that the problem is that she does not know how she likes her eggs. When she was with one fiancé, she liked them poached, with another, she liked them scrambled, with another fried. She tried to please the man by pretending to be just like him, and having the same likes and dislikes. But we cannot be phony for a lifetime. Sooner or later, we have to face ourselves.

In the church is we often put on false faces. We pretend to be better than we are. It takes a lot of faith to be honest to God. There is a word for putting on masks. It is called hypocrisy.

3. We burn our address book. In the wedding ceremony, one of the questions we are asks is this—forsaking all others, are we willing to keep ourselves only to Him? If we are not willing to do that. We should not be getting married.

The church needs to purify its love for Jesus. We do that by forgetting the interests which have occupied us in the past. Married men still notice pretty girls they do not pursue them. Instead, we look to ur spouses to be our total fulfillment.

How often we are guilty of spiritual adultery! We need to look to Jesus and Jesus alone for our fulfillment. Cut off everything that will come between us and our relationship

4. We must learn to work in concert with God. Every relationship is like a dance. One leads, the other. Christians are always looking for some magic formula for righteousness. If we keep these commandments perform these rituals, we are going to be right before God. But it does not work this way. Relationships require learning the intimate details of our spouses life, responding to their moods, and hearing what is left unsaid.

There is no magic formula for knowing God’s will and His ways. We just as we work in concert with Him. It requires a lifetime of living to know His ways.

5. We deliver the invitations. God may be planning the wedding, but he expects us to deliver the invitation. When the wedding feast of the Lamb comes, and the church is united in final matrimony to God, who would you like to see as guests there?

Now is the time to invite other people to join us in the Wedding Feast of the Lamb. Who would you want to bring as a guest to it? We have to invite them today.

The only reason God has not taken us to heaven (though He is just as anxious to do so as we are) is that the number of those who are to be there is not yet full. We must grow to the size God wants us. We must reach the others who are supposed to be wedding guests.

If you are not telling others about Jesus, then you are neglecting the greatest task you have. It is the one thing that God has left for us to do. Invite others now, so that the wedding will be full.